This past week, I had a disagreement with one of the boys. It was something simple that started over one of the puppies but quickly escalated because he is a bit dramatic and I am really stubborn and wanted to prove my point. The result was we didn’t speak for the better part of last week. Neither of us willing to concede, we just avoided each other. Good thing this isn’t a parenting advice blog…
Anyway, we finally made up last night. He came to my window and informed me he needed to talk. I invited him in and right away, he said he was sorry and told me he made a mistake and wanted to be forgiven. I told him that I had already forgiven him and was just waiting on him to talk to me.
I love this boy more than anything. We have a long history together and I worked so hard to get him to love me. I prayed, I fasted, I begged God to bring him close but on the streets he was just far enough away. People warned me about him. They told me he was stubborn and loved to fight. They told me he would never survive in a home and couldn’t change. I knew better but I didn’t know how to reach him.
I am so thankful that he is home with us. It took so much work but I am glad he is here. As we sat talking last night, I told him “Life is better when we aren’t fighting, isn’t it?” He quickly agreed. Life is better. Today he didn’t have school and he was glued to my side most of the day, asking for help with his work, teaching me Luganda, listening to music in my room. Life is better with him in it.
Last night as we talked, I reminded him how he used to not like me and asked him why. He laughed at first and told me I knew. When I told him I didn’t, he got quiet. Finally he said, “Because you were going back to America and you were leaving me in kivulu.” I forgot what a risk it was for these boys to love. Maybe I never understood to begin with. But he didn’t want to like me, let alone love me, because he knew soon I would be gone and I would be one more person that broke his heart.
As we continued to talk, he told me many things. Sometimes, I forget our situation and where these boys came from because this is just life now, we are just family. But sometimes one of them will come out of nowhere and remind me just how lucky we all are and how special our situation is. He told me that he loved me because I gave him his life back. A sixteen year old, telling me he has his life back. Why did it even disappear to begin with? He was 14 when he came home to me and spent I don’t know how many years before that on the streets, without hope and closed off because he had been hurt too many times before.
He began talking about his family and saying he had none. His father wasn’t a good man, he died a drunk and his mom is gone too. Before I could even offer that we were family, he told me, “Except you. I only have you.”
Yesterday was Orphan Sunday. It was supposed to be the day that Christians around the world came together to work and advocate on behalf of the millions and millions of orphans in the world. Did you know that if only 7% of the world’s Christians adopted one orphan, there would be no more orphans? These boys are all I have and I am all they have. I can’t continue to care for them without your help. By committing to giving only $10 a month, you will help to feed a boy one meal a day for the month. Want to do more? Consider sponsoring one of the boys and getting to know first-hand how amazing they are. You will be helping to change their lives and let them know that they have someone else. Please prayerfully consider making a difference in their lives. Visit our website for more information.
Thank you in advance for wanting to help change these boys' lives!